Follow these eight steps to reconnecting with your partner, only moving on to the next step when your partner's ready. Take your time, as some of them may be difficult – honesty is often brutal.
The key is to have these discussions in a non-threatening, non-accusatory way. And if your partner refuses top discuss any of these issues, it may be time to reconsider his commitment to you.
1. Start talking to your partner again, making it clear what the benefits are if you reconnect. Get him to sit down with and listen.
2. Read up on relationship dynamics and share your knowledge with your partner. Don't be self- righteous or condescending. Also, don't hold yourself up as a relationship expert. Simply bring up any issues you've found interesting and ask for his opinion.
3. Work on your own self- esteem. If you feel better about yourself, you're much more likely to feel better about your partner.
4. When discussing relationship issues, focus on yourself – never accuse your partner. Rather approach things in a non-threatening way that encourages open discussion.
5. Talk about your relationship goals together, you shared very happy times- recall those and look at ways to return to that state of affairs.
6. Discuss what each of your needs are. Remember, the relationship will not be successful if the needs of both parties aren't met.
7. Talk about ways to meet needs that aren't being met at present – you might be surprised at what he feels is lacking in your relationship.
8. Commit to meeting each other's needs and continuing in a spirit of openness and honesty.
BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN.
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