Things to Do on a Date That Are Cheap

The most exciting, romantic, fun and memorable dates do not have to be expensive. If you have either no budget or a small budget the key is to be creative and thoughtful. In the short paragraphs that follow you will learn the best things to do on a date that are cheap. You will also discover that free and cheap dates can be infinitely better than the most expensive dating experiences; we have all heard the saying, money does not bring happiness.

Go On A Picnic

You an go any where on a picnic. If you live in the city, find a park or even a roof! If you life in the country find somewhere exciting or romantic. Think out of the box. You could have a picnic at night under the stars or at dawn, watching the sun come up.

Watch Planes Take Off And Land

This is an exciting and free dating experience. Park your car as close to the runways as is possible. Get out of your car and site with your date on a blanket placed on the roof of your car. This is an exciting experience they will never forget.

Watch A Classic Movie At The Theater
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Everyone takes their date to the movies. It is one of those huge cliches. Be different. Take your date to a classic movie. This is a cheap date and can be a fantastic experience.

Go Swimming At An Expensive Hotel

Walk into an expensive hotel and use their swimming pool. You will be surprised. Most expensive hotels would not think twice of someone walking in and going swimming. Since they are so big, usually, they would not know you from their actual guests. This can be an exhilarating and fun dating experience and, of course, it is free.

Help The Community

You could spend the day helping the community in some way. One idea is to volunteer for the day at a homeless shelter. You could also pitch in at an old people's home. This is a free date and will reward you with lasting memories. It will also tell you a lot about the character of your date.

Visit A Local Landmark

You can find a list of all the local landmarks in your area by doing a brief search on Google. You might be surprised at just what is on offer. It will certainly make for a memorable date and will, perhaps, make you feel closer to the community in which you live.

Take A Ghost Walk

Many Towns and cities have late-night tours for people who want to spot ghosts. It usually involves a small group of excited individuals. At the end of your walk you usually go for drinks or a meal and discuss the recent activities.

Travel To Another Country, State, County or Province

This can be an exciting, somewhat eccentric date. You could spend the day in new places, for instance, or take a trip out of the city to a quaint town totally unlike your own town or city. Buy t-shirts to remember the experience whenever you wear them.

Go Fishing

If you already have finishing tackle, excellent. If not you can borrow it from a friend. If your date is new to fishing it can be a hugely memorable experience when you catch your first fish! Remember to take a camera to record the moments forever.

Build A Tree House

When you get older, you often forget the fun times you had as a child. It can be equally fun to re-visit your childhood. Building a tree house might take many days but each one will be exciting and fun. When you finishing building the tree house you are also left with a special place to visit and call your own.

Going on a date need not be expensive. What you must do is think out of the box. The best things to do on a date that are cheap can often cost you nothing at all and, yet, be hugely memorable experiences. When coming up with your own ideas, always keep your date in mind, and try to appeal to them as individuals. If they have always wanted to stargaze, taken them stargazing. Maybe they cannot remember much about their birth-town; take them there on a date! If you tailor your dates to suit your partner, the possibilities for a cheap date are endless and always fun.

8 LESSONS IN LOVE.

If you feel like it's time to reconnect with him, here's how to go about it...

Follow these eight steps to reconnecting with your partner, only moving on to the next step when your partner's ready. Take your time, as some of them may be difficult – honesty is often brutal.

The key is to have these discussions in a non-threatening, non-accusatory way. And if your partner refuses top discuss any of these issues, it may be time to reconsider his commitment to you.

1. Start talking to your partner again, making it clear what the benefits are if you reconnect. Get him to sit down with and listen.

2. Read up on relationship dynamics and share your knowledge with your partner. Don't be self- righteous or condescending. Also, don't hold yourself up as a relationship expert. Simply bring up any issues you've found interesting and ask for his opinion.

3. Work on your own self- esteem. If you feel better about yourself, you're much more likely to feel better about your partner.

4. When discussing relationship issues, focus on yourself – never accuse your partner. Rather approach things in a non-threatening way that encourages open discussion.

5. Talk about your relationship goals together, you shared very happy times- recall those and look at ways to return to that state of affairs.

6. Discuss what each of your needs are. Remember, the relationship will not be successful if the needs of both parties aren't met.

7. Talk about ways to meet needs that aren't being met at present – you might be surprised at what he feels is lacking in your relationship.

8. Commit to meeting each other's needs and continuing in a spirit of openness and honesty.

BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN.

More than words

What makes you feel most loved by your partner? What do you desire above all else? If nothing springs to mind immediately, try thinking about the negative use of love language, such as what your partner does (or doesn't do) that hurts you deeply. If, for example, your deepest pain comes from his criticism, your love language is probably Words of Affirmation.

What have you tended to ask of your partner? Whatever it is, is likely to be in keeping with your primary love language. For example, have you often verbalised your desire to spend more time with your partner or perhaps go away together at weekends? Then Quality Time is likely to be your primary love language.

Words of affirmation
Words of Affirmation are more than compliments – they are a way of communicating your thanks and appreciation for the 'little' things that your partner does for you. An affirmation person will be more willing to compromise, for example, if you show your appreciation for who they are and what they bring into your life. If you are the one in need of Words of Affirmation, tell your partner that you don't need affirmation because you don't trust or believe in his love, but because you are in need of reassurance as it makes you feel safe and secure. Compliments and positive input will also work better for you than criticism.

Quality time
If it's Quality Time that does it for you or your partner, it is important that you both know that it has nothing to do with proximity – watching TV together doesn't cut it. During this time you should give each other your undivided attention. According to Chapman, by giving your partner 20 minutes of your undivided attention, you are giving each other 20 minutes of life. You will never have that time again; you are essentially giving your lives to each other and this is a powerful communicator of love.

One man Chapman counselled said his wife had left him after 17 years of marriage and he couldn't understand why. She'd come home every evening and without fail would complain about her job. He dealt with this by giving her advice on how to deal with the situation. When she didn't take it, he got angry and told her he was no longer interested in discussing it with her and would leave the room whenever she brought it up. He assumed she wanted help, when all she wanted was for him to make the time to listen to her.

Receiving gifts
There's nothing quite like receiving a gift and it's hard to imagine anyone not feeling loved when they get one. It's something you can hold in your hand, knowing your partner was thinking of you. The gift itself is a symbol of that thought and is therefore very precious – whether it costs money or not. Gifts are visual symbols of love and are more important to some than to others. If Receiving Gifts is your primary love language you will be greatly moved by gifts, as you will see these as confirmation of your partner's love for you.

Obviously if they are not forthcoming, you may question that love. On the other hand, if your partner's primary love language is Receiving Gifts, and yours isn't, you will have to learn what Chapman calls your 'second language' and learn to become a present giver. Make a list of all the gifts your partner has expressed excitement about in the past and select ones you are comfortable with (they don't have to cost anything). Don't wait for a special occasion – almost any gift you give him will be seen as an expression of your love for him.

BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN

FOR THE LOVE OF SEX

At times it's incredibly seductive to make sensual love with the lights dimmed and flickering candles casting mysterious images on the walls. But there are other times when you just want each other so much that making love becomes wildly animalistic.

It's perfectly normal for one couple to have both kinds of sex at any given time in their relationship.

It's about love-making
So what's the difference between sex and making love? Like a good rule of thumb, this one's simple: if it's about connecting with each other, then it's about lovemaking. Look at the words "making love" – they're about creating something, building something, increasing intimacy. Lovemaking takes your relationship to a higher realm.

A close friend of mine received a terrible shock when her husband came home and told her he'd been retrenched. His failure hung heavily on him. Instead of her reassuring him with endless platitudes, they made gentle love – with him on top, while she caressed his body. Sometimes bodies talk more clearly to each other than the crispest sentences. Months later, when he'd found other work, he told her how meaningful their lovemaking had been that day – it was as though his manhood had been reaffirmed at the deepest level.

Because we are physical beings, on many occasions we find that there's a time for good old-fashioned love-making, and a place for "if it ain't kinky, it ain't sex". But if you have a secure, intimate relationship, and you've truly made love before, it's easy to know the difference, and thoroughly enjoy both kinds of sex.

BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN

GET OVER HIM

The following tactics could ease the pain when recovering from a broken heart:

Give yourself time to grieve over the relationship, but make a conscious effort not to let it take over your life.

Don't sit poring over pictures, CDs and souvenirs of the relationship. Put them away in a suitcase and replace them with new objects that hold no associations.

Make a point of going out to new places (not the ones you used to go to with him) and accept invitations to parties, events and functions. The sooner you expose yourself to new relationships, the sooner you'll find one.

Surround yourself with positive energy and treat yourself to a new hair-do, wardrobe and beauty routine. Knowing you look your best can go a long way to reviving morale.

Don't become bitter and boring by replaying your lost relationship over and over again to your mother/sister/ girlfriends. The milk is spilt, so it's time to stop crying. Somewhere out there is a brand-new, exciting lover who'll make that happy ending come true for you.

Take up a new hobby or enrol in a course that will keep your mind occupied.

Make sure you get enough sleep, exercise regularly and eat properly so your health doesn't suffer while you're trying to get over the relationship.

If you bump into your ex or someone mentions he's involved with another woman, behave like a lady. Don't start swearing, weeping or spouting vicious intimate details about his behaviour with you. Your dignity, bearing and self-control are your best allies.

If you're not ready to date again, don't force yourself to. Whatever you do, don't jeopardise a new relationship by comparing a man with your ex, or regaling him with the sad story of your lost love. He's not there for that.

If you really can't cope emotionally, don't be afraid to ask for help – see a therapist.

by HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN.

The Right Way of Talking to Him About Commitment

It's typical for a woman these days to go through the frustrating - and downright baffling - experience of watching their current boyfriend drift away right after she fessed up her feelings for him. I mean, how can being downright honest ruin a good friendship?

Being honest is a very admirable quality in a relationship, and many of the better men out there actually like seeing the women they go out with to be upfront about stuff. But when you lay out all your cards all of a sudden and try to convince him to go into a deeper relationship with you, it's guaranteed to be a recipe for failure and heartbreak.

Here's why. Whether you know it or not, the great guys out there have likely had their share of flings and girlfriends, and are therefore likely to have a few brushes with the weird, fussy, "clingy" types of women. While jocks might like the idea of their women clinging to them in the scene, you wouldn't exactly like the idea of dating a jock, right?

The good men know that the "clingy" types of women are the same "needy" types that rush into relationships. While you may not mean to come off as clingy or needy, trying to push the relationship into the next level sets off an alarm in the minds of these men - and guess what label they'll put on you then and there.

On the other hand, it's not a good idea to just clam up and keep your peace, either. If you talk very little about yourself and how you feel about things, then he might start seeing you as aloof, or - worse - weird. While it doesn't get them running away from you like being clingy does, it does get the wheels turning.

So what's the right way of talking to him about commitment?

First of all, you'll have to never forget that you can't - read, can't - convince a man to love you, much less to get into a deeper, longer-term relationship with you. Merely trying can ruin your chances for good.

Secondly, remember that the good men out there know what they want. And it's absurdly simple in most cases - they'd like to be with women who make their lives easier and more enjoyable. They'd like women who are independent, fun to be with, and "cool." Simply being what these good men are looking for is enough to attract them to you. In fact, when they like you so much, they might even move the relationship forward for you. Wouldn't that be great?

In a nutshell, learn to listen to him. Acknowledge his way of thinking and looking at things. Once you get to see things in his context, you'll be better able to relate to him and realize the things that make him tick. Naturally, this doesn't always work, as some of these men will ultimately be incompatible with your way of thinking, feeling, and acting. But give yourself a chance to be one of the "cool women" out there!

BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN

How Women Control Men - Here is the Shocking Revelation You Simply Can Not Afford to Miss

Why do you feel men always have to work hard in a relationship? Why is it that some men fall into the friends category extremely fast even when they feel they did everything in the right way shape and form? You see women have a best kept secret weapon using which they control men and most men don't even realize this. This is the major reason why you must not miss this at any cost. Read on to discover how women control men and their true secrets........

They will show you a bit of attention and you will be lured- A lot of women do this in order to get the guy to spend money on them and the fact is that a lot of men actually fall for this trick. They might make you feel like that they are real interested in you and might even get into a very interesting conversation with you. Eventually you will realize that you have spent a lot of money on them and this might go on for several months if you don't spot it early.

They make you jealous- This is one very strong psychological trick they use and almost every man falls into this trap. Actually this is the real way most women get men to chase them down like crazy and almost beg for attention. You see they might start by showing you a lot of attention and after a while they might talk to other guys in front of you or even talk about other guys with you.

They will test you all throughout- You see they will try to know as much as possible about you and the more information you give out the least interested they would be in you. You must always keep the mystery part maintained if you really want some long term results with females.

An absolute must know for you- This secret is an absolute must know for you no matter what. This is the grand daddy of all which would give you the ultimate power to become a magnet towards which every woman would be attracted. This is only known to a few and you are one of the lucky one's who are being introduced to this shocking secret- Tell me the Secret?

BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN.

To Be Or Not to Be Honest in a Relationship.

Too much of anything might not be good for you just like being too honest with your partner might not be. We all have secrets and perhaps some secrets are better left unsaid. If you have a new partner and you feel you want to trust him or her i would tell you to go right a head and trust them. What i will not tell you is to be totally honest. Its possible to trust someone without necessarily telling them everything about yourself. Sometimes being too honest can ruin your relationship. Being too honest might not be a good thing.

We all want to know exactly what the person we are having a relationship with thinks or do but sometimes what we do not know will not hurt us. There are things that our partners do that if they told us we would never love them again. We might also never look at them the same way we used to look at them before they told us the truth. The respect you had for them also disappears because they did something that you would not have dared to do yourself. That is why sometimes letting what happened in the past be in the past is a good approach to life. You should be satisfied with what you know about them and trust them enough not to hurt you.

However, sometimes being honest is good. Telling half truths sometimes only worsen the situation. Sometimes being honest saves the partner from finding out something through other sources. Things that you should have told them yourself before they found out from someone else. Relationships have been known to break because a partner could not simply tell the truth or that they hid some truth from their partner. Being honest will also help you be at peace with yourself. You will not worry about your partner finding out something you did from some other people. You will rest knowing what ever you did your partner is okay with it and that they are supporting you and they love you just the way you are.

Whatever you decide in your relationship and whatever your heart feels comfortable with is what you should do. If you feel being totally honest with your partner will not change the way they see you then you should go ahead and tell them everything and not hide. However, if you feel your partner will judge you and maybe leave you then you can choose to tell them half truth. At the end of it all, there has to be some level of honesty in your relationship. You will be the one to decide how much will hurt your relationship and how much will not. Know the person you are relating with, get to know what they expect of you and what they do not. If the person can not handle the truth, spare them and tell them half truths, if they can bear to be told the whole truth and nothing but the truth, go ahead, knock them out, they will recover.

BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN.