CONVERSATION KILLERS

When out on a date, truly fabulous girls don't talk about themselves all the time. They ask a man open-ended questions and act as though whatever he says is fascinating. And until they know him really well, they avoid the following topics like the plague:

Health problems
Neither your ovarian cysts nor your Uncle's colon surgery will contribute much towards setting a romantic mood. And, for heaven's sake save your periods/acne/dandruff stories for your girlfriends. Guys really don't want to know.

Ex-boyfriends
Avoid any mention of exes at all. Talking too much about a past relationship will only reveal your flaws. He doesn't need to know your last boyfriend was a loser. There's no need tether yourself to the past. If he knows all your dating foibles, he's more likely to lose interest.

Daily grind
Face facts – most of what you did today wasn't very exciting – at least, not to a man you don't know very well yet. Domestic mishaps, you nephew's antics, the squabble at the office and your addiction to Isidingo will inspire more yawns than and sleeping pills.

BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN.

The Amazing Benefits of a Female Led Relationship

Have you heard any of these jokes:

A lady inserted an ad in the classifieds: 'Husband Wanted'. Next day she received a hundred letters.

They all said the same thing: 'You can have mine.'

If you want your spouse to listen and pay strict attention to every word you
say -- talk in your sleep.

First guy says, 'My wife's an angel!' Second guy remarks, 'You're lucky, mine's still alive.'

And then the young son asked his father, 'Is it true that in some parts of Africa a man doesn't know his wife until he marries her?' Dad replied, 'That happens in every country, son.'

Why is the beginning of the relationship so exciting, romantic, hot and after a few years of marriage the happy couple is contemplating divorce?

The problem with relationships is that men and women have different needs - everyone knows that but when you understand what a women wants and what a man wants and then work on the relationship with an understanding of each others needs you can develop the relationship into an exciting, loving, caring satisfying marriage.

How can this be accomplished?

Women want attention, appreciation, and communication.

Men want sex. The sex drive in a man is incredibly strong. Think about the beginning of most relationships. The man is attentive, appreciative and talks. The women gets what she wants because the man is interested in getting her into bed.

So a great way for couples to bring excitement back into the relationship is to have the women focus on channeling her husbands sex drive. Once this is accomplished she will get what she wants. When a man's sex drive is channeled he will again become attentive, romantic, appreciative and he will communicate.

This can be done with a little imagination. It wont require the wife to hang from the ceiling fan dressed in garter belts with a paddle in her hand. When a wife learns to use her feminine qualities she can bring her husband to attention in a very short period of time.

Sound like work? Sound a little weird? Every relationship requires work. If you want a relationship that you've only dreamed about learn how to use your sexuality and you'll find your husband begging to do things for you.

by HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN

The Number One Remedy For a Broken Heart

If there was just one remedy for a broken heart what would it be? Could there be one and only one perfect remedy for a broken heart that would fit all broken relationships and people? Probably not. So when you consider the multiple possibilities that are available to you to heal the pain of a broken heart there is one thing, one avenue that will outshine the rest.

Give of yourself. What does this mean? It simply means to give yourself, your time, your experience, your knowledge, your expertise to others. Give yourself to a cause, a friend, a charity. Give to someone or something in need. Make yourself available to others. When you give of yourself in this nature you will get something back. It may be something tangible or it may be a sense of fulfillment. It may be simply the feeling that you have done some good and that there is a bigger picture out there above and beyond the heartache that you are feeling.

If you have experienced a break up from a relationship then you know that feeling of heart ache. You understand that you will feel pain from the loss of the relationship. You will have to go through it and deal with it. It is real. If someone hit you with a brick you wouldn't question the pain, would you? You couldn't prevent the pain. You would feel it until it stopped. The same holds true with a "broken heart." Accept that you will hurt but realize that the pain will stop someday.

To give of yourself you need to embrace the fact that you can feel so deeply and that you have a gift to share. Share your gift with others on a daily basis. Each time you do this and affect someone on a personal level the pain of your own heartache will begin to fade. By easing the pain of others you will begin to ease your own pain.

Find what makes you strong and use this to help others. This is the number one remedy for a broken heart. Give of yourself and the rewards you get in return will far outweigh the pain of a broken heart.

by HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN

Common Sense Ways to Save a Relationship From a Break Up

Recently at a JUST FOR SINGLES seminar, the following commonsense ways to save a relationship from a break up was shared with single men and women in attendance. For those of you who were not opportune to attend, we will highlight here some of the commonsense ways to save any relationship from a break up before and after marriage.

BE PROUD OF YOUR LOOKS
Single men and women seeking to keep a long term relationship that will eventually lead to marriage should be proud of their looks. Never consider your size as an obstacle to finding the wife or husband of your dream. Whether fat, slim, short, tall, dark or white, there is someone out there, who God has made just for you. He or she will appreciate and love you dearly o matter your look. However, if you meet your desired partner, maintain your shape and size to suit the type of person your partner saw the first time. You must use your commonsense here to save your relationship from a break up. If you were skinny when you met your partner, maintain your shape. Maybe that was the singular reason your partner was attracted to you in the first place.

LOOK FOR A COMPATIBLE PARTNER
Apply wisdom while in relationships with the opposite sex. You should be wise in choice making thoroughly observing to know if you are compatible with the man or woman you are in relationship with. Most married people today are sad and regret the choice of spouse they made because they just jumped into the marriage without knowing their partners well enough.

DO NOT REVEAL EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU
Another important commonsense way to save your relationship from a break up is this. Read this and understand it well. Be wise not to reveal all information about you in one day immediately you start a relationship with a potential life partner. It is wrong presentation of you in relationship. Personal information about each other should be known gradually as the relationship grows. Do not reveal to the new person you are dating fundamental family secrets, like curses, hereditary problems or a sickness until the relationship has fully grown.

STUDY YOUR PARTNER'S CHARACTER
In other to save your relationship from a break up, you must fully study your partner before being carried away or infatuated and announcing to the whole world that your partner is the best person for you. You should not introduce somebody you just met to friends and family members as your future wife or husband until you have fully studied his or her character to know the person actually wants to marry you or ready to be committed to a long term relationship.

AVOID RUMORS AND GOSSIPS IN RELATIONSHIPS
When you hear negative reports about the person you are dating, investigate and be sure before taking any actions. Some serious relationships have experienced sudden break ups because one of the partners was told the boyfriend is always seen with a girl without finding out about the girl is. Rumors and gossips are capable of causing relationship break ups. Do not be surprise to see a once loving partner suddenly behaving strangely because of a false negative report picked up from others.

AVOID ARGUMENTS
Another commonsense way to save your relationship from a break up is to avoid arguments. Be smart and avoid arguments with your partner. To the ladies reading this, know today that men do not like argumentative women. Desist from this habit. Shouting or arguing constantly with a man can break up the relationship you have built over the years. Do not use abusive words.

GIFTS
Do not receive gifts from a man or woman you do not love or intend to marry. "Nothing goes for nothing". If you keep receiving gifts from the person you do not love, you will pay the price on day. Do not place high monetary value on the gift from your partner. Show appreciation and love. Your partner can use gifts to know the type of person you are. The manner you give and receive gifts can be use to determine your character. This is another commonsense way to save your relationship from a break up. Most people do not know this.

BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN.

Why Men Say One Thing and Do Another

Have you ever had the experience of seeing a man drift away from you because "he wasn't ready for a relationship," only to find soon after that he's out dating other women?

The things men say vary - he can say that he's not ready to be in a relationship, or he can say that he needs to be alone. Whatever the case, it seems that many men don't really mean what they way - and it infuriates many, many great women all over the dating game.

Probably more than infuriating, it's baffling. Why do men say one thing and do another? Are they worthless jerks who can't commit? Or maybe they really don't know what they want?

Actually, a man and a woman can say the exact same things but mean differently. For instance, when you say, "I'd like to stay home and relax," then you're probably thinking of doing your nails, checking out your to-do list, and maybe watch TV. But when a man says "I'd like to stay home and relax," he'll probably watch sports, drink beer, play video games, and order pizza for delivery.

So what exactly do men mean when they say, "I'm not ready for a relationship?"

They actually mean something along the lines of "I'm looking to be in a relationship with a woman who's everything I want her to be - independent, easygoing, fun, and level-headed. You can be this woman, but you don't have these qualities yet - and I'm not really interested in having to teach you all that."

Yep - they simply don't think that you're the one for them.

So why don't they just tell you?

Simple - they're looking for a woman who already has those qualities. They don't like having to teach you every little thing about how to be the woman of their dreams.

Let's face it. If you were looking for a bodyguard, would you hire someone who told you, "Sure, I can be a bodyguard. But can you give me a little time to learn the basics?" Of course not - you'd much rather hire a bodyguard who already knew what to do.

Same goes with men. The better ones out there are looking for a woman who could make their life a lot more fun and enjoyable, without having to teach them anything. They're out there looking for a "cool" girl.

And you can be a "cool" girl if you know exactly what men want - and it's not just about sex, either.

A guy will find it a lot easier to love a woman who they can feel a deep emotional attraction to, in addition to the physical attraction. Remember - relationships based on physical attraction don't last long, but relationships founded on strong emotional connections last a lifetime.

In other words, it's in the chemistry. If you look inside yourself, getting rid of any bad qualities while fostering good ones, then you'll be opening yourself up to relationships with the better men out there.

BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN.

3 Types of Men Women Can Not Stand - This is Something Every Man Must Know at All Costs

When it comes to women it all boils down to the way you truly make them feel. You see it's all about doing the right things at the right time but often a lot of men out there don't really realize what they are doing due to which they end up making a lot of mistakes which turns women off. This is the major reason why you must be aware of these before it's too late. Read on to discover what these mistakes are and what can be done in order to prevent them from happening...........

Not being a good listener- This is one thing women complain about all the time. A lot of men out there feel that they are right all the time and are simply not willing to listen. This is one aspect women simply can not stand as they want to be with someone who understands them rather than someone who argues all the time over small matters.

Being way too needy and desperate- This is another thing which completely turns females off. You see they want to be around someone who can make them feel good instead of someone who feel bad about himself all the time and is always asking for approval and seeking attention.

Trying to become someone you really are not- Fake men are the one's women try to avoid at all possible costs. Women would rather be with an honest man who is completely honest about himself then with someone who lies all the time and tries to fake his personality just to be with a girl or just to temporarily impress her. It's always better to be someone you are than someone you simply are not.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets.

BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN,

How to Make a Girl Feel Irresistible Attraction Towards You - You Must Not Miss This at Any Cost

One thing which is not taught in school is social dynamics and everything one should know about relationships. This is the major reason why a lot of guys out there tend to somewhat struggle with this subject. There are some keys you must know at all possible costs if you truly want to get some results with the opposite sex. Read on to discover what these keys are and achieve earth shattering results......

Maintain an emotional connection- Women are more emotional but men are more rational and this is the basic difference between the two. If you truly want to make them get attracted towards you, you must be able to make an emotional connection with them if you want them to be attracted towards you.

It's a combination of all the emotions- At the same time it also means that she should experience a combination of all the emotions to really get attracted towards you. You see she can not be happy all the time around you as that would make it extremely predictable and after a while she would start getting bored of you. This is the major reason why she must go through all the extremes a human can actually experience.

Make her work for it all the time- At the same time you should never be too easy to get or deal with. You must be something she struggles to keep all the time. You see when she has to work to keep your attention she would try extremely hard and her attraction towards you will grow instead of die with time.

BY HARRISON OM OTUENMHEN.

This is Why Women Chase Bad Boys - Here is the Blunt Truth Finally Revealed in Front of Your Eyes

Well it's often said that nice guys finish last but a lot of females out there would simply disagree with this statement. They always say that they want nice men but why do they always end up chasing the bad ones? You see it might not apply to every girl out there but majority of women do. There are some shocking reasons most guys are not aware of. Read on to discover what these reasons are and get ready to be shocked...

Bad guys are mostly emotionally stable- Most bad boys out there are some what cold towards emotions and don't give the type of reactions a girl would expect from them. You see this very fact makes a lot of girls think and such men automatically become a rare breed women run after. Unlike nice guys who always show a strong reaction towards a girl's comments and often end up at the receiving end of rejection from girls.

They are hard to get that's why girls have to have them- Put it this way! If there is a great looking girl who always ends up getting a lot of attention from almost every guy out there suddenly ends up being ignored. You see this would raise her curiosity levels as to why this guy didn't pay attention towards me. Therefore the guy becomes an automatic challenge for her and she would pursue him to see what he's really all about.

They work on their own terms- Bad boys don't work on someone else's terms. They make their own route instead of following someone else's. You see when it comes to the matter of nice guys they always end up agreeing with the girl on almost everything and they try to please her in every way possible due to which they come across as any other guy.

BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN.

Do Looks Matter to Women? Alright Now You Need to Pay Very Close Attention Here

Most men are just completely confused when it comes to the matter of whether looks really matter to women or not. A lot of guys out there feel that looks do matter all the time and the very first thing a woman considers is what a guy looks like. You see this is a big misconception and the fact is that ever ugly guys can get hot women. Read on to discover some of the most shocking revelations on this subject.......

Your body language matters more- The way you act and behave around her within the very first 5 minutes has a lot to do with whether she is going to like you or not. You see a lot of men out there feel that women only considers there looks within the very first few minutes but the fact is that it's not the way you look but the way you act which makes the big difference.

How comfortable you are with the way you are- This is another factor women consider during the very first few minutes you spend with them. You see women are more socially smart in comparison to men and they always notice your level of self confidence and esteem based on the way you really are. If you are not comfortable in your own skin it will reflect on your personality and the girl will read that within seconds.

How interesting are you? - You can have stunning looks but if you don't have an interesting personality there is no way that a girl will ever like you. She will feel no attraction towards you unless you have a strong personality and an interesting character. Therefore you must work on building a strong character and a highly interesting personality as that would instantly please her.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know. This is something you can't afford to miss at any cost.

BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN.