Why Men Say One Thing and Do Another

Have you ever had the experience of seeing a man drift away from you because "he wasn't ready for a relationship," only to find soon after that he's out dating other women?

The things men say vary - he can say that he's not ready to be in a relationship, or he can say that he needs to be alone. Whatever the case, it seems that many men don't really mean what they way - and it infuriates many, many great women all over the dating game.

Probably more than infuriating, it's baffling. Why do men say one thing and do another? Are they worthless jerks who can't commit? Or maybe they really don't know what they want?

Actually, a man and a woman can say the exact same things but mean differently. For instance, when you say, "I'd like to stay home and relax," then you're probably thinking of doing your nails, checking out your to-do list, and maybe watch TV. But when a man says "I'd like to stay home and relax," he'll probably watch sports, drink beer, play video games, and order pizza for delivery.

So what exactly do men mean when they say, "I'm not ready for a relationship?"

They actually mean something along the lines of "I'm looking to be in a relationship with a woman who's everything I want her to be - independent, easygoing, fun, and level-headed. You can be this woman, but you don't have these qualities yet - and I'm not really interested in having to teach you all that."

Yep - they simply don't think that you're the one for them.

So why don't they just tell you?

Simple - they're looking for a woman who already has those qualities. They don't like having to teach you every little thing about how to be the woman of their dreams.

Let's face it. If you were looking for a bodyguard, would you hire someone who told you, "Sure, I can be a bodyguard. But can you give me a little time to learn the basics?" Of course not - you'd much rather hire a bodyguard who already knew what to do.

Same goes with men. The better ones out there are looking for a woman who could make their life a lot more fun and enjoyable, without having to teach them anything. They're out there looking for a "cool" girl.

And you can be a "cool" girl if you know exactly what men want - and it's not just about sex, either.

A guy will find it a lot easier to love a woman who they can feel a deep emotional attraction to, in addition to the physical attraction. Remember - relationships based on physical attraction don't last long, but relationships founded on strong emotional connections last a lifetime.

In other words, it's in the chemistry. If you look inside yourself, getting rid of any bad qualities while fostering good ones, then you'll be opening yourself up to relationships with the better men out there.

BY HARRISON OMOTUENMHEN.